Lets talk communication! Funny way of putting it right? When it comes to building confidence within our children the best way to start is with communication. Now, you may ask how will I communicate with my 3 week old who just screams whenever he/she needs something? Or better yet with my 2 year old who is having a full out tantrum which in turn completely drains out my voice? Well we first start with patience. Take a few breaths before approaching the situation. If you become erratic it only panics the child more which causes the situation to escalate to an even more grand performance. Here are some tips I use with my daughter that helps tremendously! And just when it does not seem to matter in that moment, results seem to pour in at its devine timing. So enjoy these tips, be patience and make it a ritual then sit back and reap the benefits! Our life just got easier!
- Involve the child(ren) in daily activities by communicating the process. This helps for all ages! 2 week old, Mommmy is changing your diaper, I wonder what it smells like. 2 year old, Mommy is loading the dishwasher and just like that we have a learning opportunity on our hands! I am sure they’ll have a load of questions and may even want to be involved in the helping process.
- Allow the child(ren) to help! I know this is easier on days we are not rushing out the house hoping we have everything but sometimes allowing them to help may actually help us move a little faster. For example, my 13 month old loves brushing her teeth! Its new, fun and exciting. So if I am still running around the house like a headless chicken trying to get things together, I will entertain her by allowing her to start the cleaning teeth process. And with this, I have noticed that when it is my turn to help she is more willing to give me the brush. One less battle for me!
- Lastly, offer options to your child(ren). This is HUGE and it is one of my favorites! By far the best confidence builder. Also, for all ages! I like to offer Zoe 2 options for reasons: One, she’s way too young to take on more it’ll only confuse and discourage her. Two, she gets to choose her fate! and Three, if she does not like the options offered she may decline and face the consequences without much of my interference. Not only does this build confidence but it also puts the child in control. We all LOVVE when we’re in control right? They feel as equal to us and honestly it minimizes tantrums. Hey! I am a firm believer in choosing my battles wisely. The less fuss the more fun!
So there you have it! 3 tips to follow daily that will bring positive reinforcement and behaviors within your child(ren). Also, it will save one less string of our hairs!